An old Korean proverb states, "Father and mother are the parents who bring me up, while a teacher is the parent who educates me." For this reason, students are expected to pay as much respect to their teachers as they would to their parents.
Another old Korean proverb, "Parents may procreate children, but not their purpose in life." Thus, while parents may love their child, they may never become the child's teacher. The parent/child relationship is emotional and all objectivity is lost. Without this objectivity, it is nearly impossible to institute and continue absolute control with the learning system. The greatest challenge and reward for a parent is being able to provide the guidance that will make the child a useful and respected member of the society. Parent responsibility is to provide the proper education that will broaden the child’s knowledge and imbue him or her with a good sense of ethics and morality. Because the parents hesitate to force discipline on their children in an objective manner, it makes it difficult for them to provide the correct education the child needs. There is a subconscious fear that it will create a breach in their relationship. Confucius advised, "Children should be exchanged and taught by concerned parents."
To teach another’s child to become a person of good character, according to the wishes of his or her own parents, is a great responsibility. In the eyes of the student, his teacher will occupy an equal position with his own parents. There is truth in the adage that the King, Teacher, and Father are one and equal. There must certainly be a degree of love and understanding in all the above relationships, but there must also be a degree of objectivity. This same relationship must also be present in teaching Taekwondo.
Certainly, a dedicated and sincere instructor is an absolute necessity for any school for with one the school cannot grow and mature. Accordingly, both instructor and student owe a debt of responsibility to each other that may never be paid.
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